The Establishment’s attitude towards sex is the ultimate in hypocrisy.
A man in the public eye is ruined if discovered in flagrante delicto and is normally deserted by his colleagues for fear of them being implicated in the scandal. Loyalty goes out of the window and to them their past hero is reduced to a sorry shadow of his previous gregarious self.
Once admired for his sexual prowess, he now finds himself a target for vilification. However, the public at large may look at it differently.
I remember my late friend Tony Lambton, when he was a minister in the Heath government, being caught in Soho smoking pot while in bed with a black prostitute, which led to his resignation from the government. His fall from grace was sensational at the time and he opted to quit our shores and seek refuge in Sienna, Italy, where he bought a palatial house and lived happily ever after.
But what was remarkable about the whole incident was Lambton’s honesty when interviewed on television to gauge his reaction to the uproar that followed his resignation. He was as cool as a cucumber when asked why on earth would he go to Soho to seek the services of a prostitute and smoke dope with her when there was hardly any beautiful lady in England whom he had not seduced. His reply was simply that ‘variety was a compelling factor’. In other words, he admitted to being kinky. ‘Aren’t we all?’ were the unsaid words which he intimated.
For telling the truth he became an overnight hero, worshipped by the young ‘Sloanees’ who hitherto referred to him affectionately as ‘Uncle Tony’, and his home in Sienna became a pilgrimage where women flocked to visit.
His notoriety served him well and he never looked back.
I am recounting this story as a prelude to another one which has hit the headlines last week. It seems that a care home was being probed for booking prostitutes to relieve disabled residents. Staff called up hookers on a regular basis to satisfy the sexual needs of their residents.
Red socks would be hung on door handles to signal that saucy activities were in progress so couples would not be disturbed and, to add to the merriment of those who live there, strippers were also invited to perform.
Bosses claimed the visits were of a therapeutic nature and stopped frustrated residents from groping staff at Chaseley nursing home, Eastbourne. Experts have even described them as a ‘basic human right’ but Sussex County Council has now launched an investigation into possible ‘exploitation and abuse’ of vulnerable people. A spokesman said the Council has been unaware of Chaseley’s policy of inviting prostitutes on site and ‘did not welcome the idea’.
Disabled people should have a life too. They need sexual congress perhaps even more than people who have no infirmity whatsoever. They suffer bouts of depression for not being as active and mobile as most of us. We have a solemn duty to cater for all their needs. Sex is a vital part of our makeup. We must discourage masturbation for its psychological side-effects and encourage people to abandon this practice.
People who are sexually frustrated resort to violent crimes and are a menace to society. We must not be blinkered as to the benefits of sexual relief. Damn the Establishment if it does not comply with human needs.
Let us then liberate ourselves to appreciate that sex is a gift from God for which we should be eternally grateful.